Are You Ready for a Serious Relationship?
Have you been on your own for what seems like an eternity? Have you grown accustomed to asking for a table for one? Are you comfortable being alone?
Are you comfortable being alone? Or do you find yourself wishing for that special someone to spend time with? Maybe you’re wondering if it’s time to move forward. Perhaps you’re ready to focus on finding a partner.
Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses ~Ann Landers
Answer the following questions when considering a long-term relationship:
1. Have you completed education and job training?
Because work and school require a great deal of time, it’s wise to get them out of the way before pursuing a serious relationship. Once you have more free time, you’ll be able to spend it getting to know someone special.
2. Is your career off and running?
Hopefully, the position you’re in at work is perfectly matched to your skills. There’s little job turmoil, you have some great co-workers, and you’re enjoying the work you’re doing.
Sure, there’ll come a time when you’ll want to move on and explore your other talents. But for now, you’re right where you’d choose to be career-wise.
3. Are you over your last breakup?
Be sure the hurt feelings you had over the loss of a prior relationship are gone. You realize that the end of a serious, long-term relationship doesn’t have to be anyone’s fault, and you’ve recovered from the experience.
4. Does finding that special someone consume you?
Do your routine thoughts each day focus on having a lifelong partner?
You want to see a familiar face each morning and make exciting plans for the future together.
The yearnings inside you cannot be denied any longer.
5. Do you see all that you have to offer to a prospective partner?
Good sense of humor—check. Strong communication skills—check. Once you recognize all of your wonderful attributes, you will have the confidence to pursue a close, loving relationship.
6. Are you in good shape financially?
You’re working extra hard to pay off your college loans and current bills. You figure that within the next year, you’ll be living debt-free.
The financial aspect is particularly important because money struggles can add challenges to a relationship.
7. Do you marvel at the love you see?
Are you in awe when you look at the incredible connection between your parents, grandparents, or neighbors down
It is very helpful to have good relationship role models in your life. The emotional security of these relationships seems to overflow onto you when you’re around those who have solid relationships.
If you are yearning for a relationship, admit it. Your feelings are real and palpable.
8. Have you done some emotional work and soul searching?
In your efforts to find the personal strength you once had, you must look within yourself.
Have you done your own soul-searching and journaling? Or have you seen a therapist to guide you through emotional situations?
“I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.”
― Lisa Kleypas,